L.O.V.E. is the four-letter word that is the most beautiful feeling in this world. We generally don’t know what this means until someone very special comes into our lives and teaches us about some of the best feelings in this world. I was no exception, and, I was completely unknown of this feeling mostly because I was busy learning new stuff, working in different Jobs, reading books, and obsessed with self-development, and upgrading myself. I was so obsessed with these kinds of stuff that I never got a chance to take a pause from life and explore this beaut.
I always thought about myself as being an overthinker, coz I always have all these different versions of each and everything in my head, it’s like, the moment, I see something, I already visualize different scenarios of the same thing and start thinking about the possible outcomes of the current decisions I make that can have good or bad consequences in the near future. Adding the quality of being an Extremist and an Addict, just takes that to a whole next level. All of my colleagues -trust me, I’ve worked for dozens of companies in the past 10 years and I have a lot of colleagues- know that if I am focused on something, everything else becomes irrelevant to me and that is how I learned all these communication and people skills which are helping me a lot in my life. People like this are very good at parallel tasking, but suck when it comes to multi-tasking, because of the habit of their sheer focus, they allot their entire self to a specific task at hand. The math is very simple; if someone works 40 hours a week and you start working 80+ hours a week, you get the most impossible job done within a week and learn a plethora of things at the same time about work and people as well. It never gets old, but I have been admired by many people for the intensity of hard work that I put into any project and the enthusiasm that I bring to the table that I take charge of. To simply put things in a clearer perspective, I always strive to be the most hardworking guy in the entire room; no matter how big the room is.
This attitude is good for, let me rephrase that, this attitude is great when you are working on something for yourself, or for someone else, for instance, a Job or your own Business. But it totally backfires when it comes to relationships. Initially, you take things slow because once you know that if you are addicted to that person, there’s no going back, and eventually, once you are committed to them, you surpass the other person, in almost all aspects of the relationship, when it comes to showing that you truly and utterly love them. Whether it’s making them feel special, taking care of them, remembering all the small things like monthly anniversaries by preparing for it for an entire week prior, reaching the destination early so that they don’t have to wait for you but also waiting for them for hours because they are busy with their friends, or as simple as just helping them figure out their life in every possible way in your power. In a nutshell, you take care of them, as if you are gifted with a newborn baby because, your love has no boundaries and due to your attributes of being selfless, you literally take care of their entire family and treat them just like yours. You become committed and promise to love them, no matter what. And the best but most painful part of this is, unfortunately, even if you break up, a part of you just can’t stop loving them. Ever!
Always remember that sometimes in life, not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of good luck.
P.S. This quote applies either way.
The biggest problem about human beings is that when you reach the 6th slice of pizza, it becomes overrated and you just want to finish it up and clean up the trash as compared to the first, second, and third slice, where you craved for it for many hours or even days. That is exactly what happens when you have these extreme traits that create wonders in a Business or a Job, but it literally throws you off guard and ruins everything at the end because when you get addicted to a person, that is exactly, when they leave you, and trust me, it’s as bad or worse as taking away drugs from a complete drug addict and just like them, you start having anxiety attacks -which is not even in your control- because just like what happens to the soil or the land when a tree is uprooted during a storm, the same way you get torn into countless pieces during the separation. But that doesn’t make the other person bad or evil, they just might not be ready for this intense level of commitment or their agenda or goal in life could be something different at that time. It’s just like asking a street vendor to make the dish the spiciest possible while a different customer would say that, please make it just moderate, I can’t take it if it’s too hot or spicy. See, it’s that simple. But if you can find a person, who craves for what you serve, you just found a diamond. So if you are in a relationship, love them with all your might, but also, share the same love with yourself as well, that’s the least your future self would ask you to do so.
Never allow someone to be your no. 1 priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you, you just have been patient enough to find the ones, who are worth suffering for. So, you must be thinking, then Jaison, what should a person do to find true love? My answer to that would be, “Well, do whatever it takes to be the best version of yourself, because, trust me, the biggest commitment for you, is the person looking back at you in the mirror every single day.” Of course, when you are heartbroken, you’ll definitely be depressed and have the darkest days of your life and you will be suffering all the pain by yourself and the other person will also go through the same pain of losing you. But if you do not give up on yourself and keep working on yourself, is when the realization kicks in and they start feeling the void and emptiness in their life, no matter what they do, they will miss your vibes, even if they get into a different relationship after yours. If you have loved the person like no one ever could dare to, trust me, you never lost anything and the other person has lost everything. Because, there are fewer people in this world who can love as extremely as you do, but there are a plethora of people who just want to take advantage of you by pretending that they love you. I can highly advocate the fact that “Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the one person whom you thought would never hurt you”. Thus, it is your sole responsibility to love yourself and be very happy with your life and make your family happy, you just have to wait for someone who can genuinely add to it. As the adage goes, “Love is the Answer, Love is the Key, but if you can’t love yourself, then how can you ever love Me?”
The Man/Woman Looking at you in the mirror is the only person who can make you truly happy, so start taking care of yourself because YOU ARE ALREADY ENOUGH! So today, I hope that I leave you with a direction correction. So, take a long good look into the mirror and say, “I LOVE YOU (your name) and I will take care of you, no matter what, because, you deserve happiness and Joy and this is my promise to you (your name)” To wind up, read the following quote a couple of times to know what you are worth and go get what you deserve.
The ones who are meant to be with you will always find a way to reach out to you, no matter what. And the ones who aren’t, have already found many excuses to not be with you.
– Jaison
P.S. If you loved this article, you’ll love the Podcast of this even more… Click here to listen to it.
I really appreciate that you spent your valuable time reading this article, see you soon in the next one. Until then, you can follow me on my Instagram and Clubhouse ID @iam_jaisonjose and keep in touch. I’ll be more than happy to know your story too.🙋♂️✨
This article was authored by Jaison Elcy Jose. Thank you for reading till the end.
If you liked this article, I’m sure you’ll love the other ones too: https://boringacademy.com/jaisonelcyjose/